Why You Can't Get Your Needs Met By Setting Boundaries

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1jxcQkovBg

You know, I never understood why I was so popular in school despite being #autistic and #trans, but then I remembered that I gravitated toward Rarity after changing my avatar to her as part of a joke on EqD (like she was taking over) and now I realized how it makes sense. I share some of her traits, along with Fluttershy and Twilight. But you rarely see either of them in my avatar, or at least not fully, because Twilight is cropped out of this one. However, for me, my popularity was an accident.

“Autistic Inclusive Meets: the grassroots group fighting Autistic abuse while uplifting the community”

by Hannah Sharland in The Canary @thecanaryuk

“Autistic Inclusive Meets (AIM) has campaigned for years for a new law to make claiming a treatment or intervention as an autism ‘cure’, illegal”

https://www.thecanary.co/long-read/2025/04/14/autistic-inclusive-meets/?__s=1toyfummtp6bhspv4akg

From now through May 11, you can use this link to get the audio version of my book Neuroqueer Heresies for 50% off!

#books #audiobooks #neuroqueer #neurodiversity #neurodivergence #queer #autism #autistic #psychology #cognition #consciousness #bodymind

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New server, new #introduction -- I'm still the same old calcifer or cal from hackers.town, but the castle has been rebuilt

Old nerd with a passion for resiliency and software/hardware in constrained environments (like #arduino, #esp32, and similar embedded systems). Also #queer, #polyamorous, and #autistic #dad

No patience for authoritarians, bigots, or bootlickers. Rights are for all people.

Something that I have long suspected, talking to another neurodiverse person is like speaking in another language, I often feel like I'm not even the same species as neurotypical people.
#autism #autistic #neurodiverse #neurodiversity #adhd

AN AUTISTIC URBAN HERMIT
(you may not understand if you are not autistic)

@actuallyautistic

For many years, I've been a very curious person. I've learned many things and done many things that I found interesting: science, art, computer science. Like a voracious animal, my mind has consumed all kinds of information, eager to understand everything around me and everything I experienced. Soldier, doctor, monk, musician, hacker, etc. Until one day, staring at the ceiling in the bed of a psychiatric hospital where I was hospitalized, I asked myself: "How did I get here, to this?" And that night, 17 years ago, another part of my life began. I began to die and be reborn, to discover how and why I had gotten to that situation. I discovered that I have high abilities, that I am bipolar and autistic. But for every limitation I discovered, I also discovered the limitations of the world and the human society in which I live.
Today I know that nothing has meaning and that life doesn't need to have it; that what many see as progress and evolution, I see as barbarism and brutality, and that humanity is the stupidest species on the planet, not the best. I don't have goals anymore, I don't need them. But I do have a compass, a kind of direction without needing to get anywhere. To live as peacefully as possible and need very little, being aware and critical of everything. A peaceful dwelling isn't just my house tucked away in the middle of the city, but also a peaceful inner life, without the noise and clamor of the lives of "normal people," without socializing more than the bare minimum necessary for survival. And this isn't because of autism; it's because of a kind of purge, a psycho-spiritual hygiene. The forced social being I often was is dying. Until a few years ago, there wasn't so much exposure and socialization; it wasn't mandatory or essential to living and working in this world. With all the technology and supposed progress, there is increasing misery, hunger, war, and violence everywhere, which makes me think that it's more of a trigger than a solution.
Being overly intelligent and being autistic is a fatal combination that guarantees the death of the social being and the development of the inner hermit that every gifted autistic person potentially is. I'm slowly retreating from the world to my quiet inner abode, where a very narrow door filters who enters and who doesn't. Just my small family group and a minimum of kindness toward a few people is more than enough.
I thought a lot about sharing what I'd learned, about helping, but I realized that idealism and the romanticization of compassion are useless when the sufferer doesn't understand the root of their problems and isn't willing to do their part. Human nature is to be a soulless son of a bitch, held back only by fear of punishment, whether from human law itself or some imagined deity. It's better to live in full awareness of the suchness of things. I myself can be a compassionate genius and in the next moment break your head for being rude and treating me badly.
We live in the worst of all possible worlds, and with that, we are warned that the worst can always happen. Knowing that, any good thing that comes or appears is a gift, a bonus track.
I don't give unsolicited advice, but if you want some, it's this: "Step away from the world as it is and watch it burn from a distance."

(An autistic person becoming an urban hermit.)

#Autism #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #AutismSpectrumDisorder
#ASD #Autistic #LanguageBigotry /\ #Aspie #AspiePower /\
#AutismSpectrum /\ #FWakeAutismA

https://notthewriteryourelookingfor.tumblr.com/post/759681306752942080

Hey everyone. I'm overwhelmed, emotional and in need of help. My landlord wants me out, because I'm transgender and no longer pray, read the Bible or talk to God. Please read and share the following and if you can support me in any way please do so.

https://open.substack.com/pub/seththebrave/p/autistic-and-transgender-man-in-need?r=5bhbya&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false

#autistic
#autism #actuallyautistic
#Neurodivergent #AutismAwareness #AutismAwarenessMonth #adhd #trans #transgender #help

Not all activity is productive, and not all productivity is active.

MUTUAL AID POST 5/120

y'all, I need help affording marijuana for my PTSD

I need $120 for it

my followers know the kind of crap I've been going through lately, and I really need the help

if you can spare anything, I would really appreciate it

thanks in advance, and boost if you can

Venmo is tsbarnes
CashApp is tskybarnes

Sometimes I wonder if I should just "pull myself together" and then at other times I think that in some in some idealized future people like me will be diagnosed early and allowed enough sleep and given opportunities to help society with their weird ideas.

#Autism #autistic #neurodiverse @actuallyautistic #AutisticBurnout #ActuallyAutistic

And something from my own experience -- I don't expect to be telling anyone this for the first time, instead I'm more posting it as a reminder for those of us who forget:

#autistic and otherwise ND burnout doesn't just come during the bad times or the hard times.

It can come when things are going well but you've just used too many spoons for too long

It can come after a major milestone if you don't have time to rest and decompress.

It can come straight after your greatest triumph.

Might be a good time for an #introduction!

I'm #autistic and #ADHD. I'm a cis male, but I go by they/them pronouns because pronouns are cool and I support the cause! And, well, manly culture kinda sucks, anyway. I'm #demisexual.

I work in tech, which is meh, but I apply those skills for #FOSS work and #cat volunteering in my free time. I have a cat, and I currently house a cat family of 3.

I enjoy #anime and #manga, and enjoy good literary analysis. Writing #MHA "fix-it" fic, currently enjoying #kagurabachi.

I enjoy games! I'm big on #PathOfExile, #LastEpoch and #Warframe. Really need to finish my #persona3 playthrough, though...

I own a #bass, but it currently collects dust as I'm dealing with stuff. I like #coffee and #beer.

This research paper about mothers being accused of child abuse simply for acting #autistic is absolutely chilling!

https://advance.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.31124/advance.174228960.08772277/v1

@actuallyautistic #ActuallyAutistic

Nightly #GermanShepherd post. "Bear," one of the exemplary hero characters of my latest book, by far the most astute dog I ever knew for working with #autistic children, the most talented demo-dog I ever had, and the best four-footed teacher of staff trainers in a 30-yr career. His progeny are literally all over the globe now, working in service dog schools on every continent. He left us in 2014 and I still think of him every day.

Reiterating my previous reminder to my self-diagnosed and suspected autistic and other ND friends: Now is *not* the time to go for formal diagnosis.

Why? The same people unlawfully deporting random non-white people to prison in El Salvador and refusing judicial orders to fix it are now declaring you a problem to be cured or fixed.

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https://www.newsweek.com/rfk-jr-says-us-will-know-cause-autism-epidemic-september-2058191

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AntiFascist https://mastodon.social/@synkr3tyk/114310427025152994

One of the things that I used to do is run board game parties for #autistic people to socialize. Many of my friends are social workers and are companions to #neurodivergent individuals.

I have a rather good sized game collection with lots of rare games but that also means it is a dated collection.

If you're into #boardgames please suggest some of your favorites.

If you're inclined to help, here are some games I've been looking at to bolster my collection.

https://www.amazon.com/registries/gl/guest-view/3HQFQSAU54M17

I was in Hodges Figgis (which is the bookshop Waterstones in #Dublin) looking for my book of essays by #Irish #Autistic adults. I couldn't find it in new non fiction. But where did I find it? There, on the bestseller stand, proudly standly at number 2. I NEVER expected a book of autistic voices to be so popular in the mainstream. Makes me hopeful. Times are changing
@actuallyautistic